In this day and age, with so much coming at us at any given moment, to be disconnected from the self is a common side effect. In truth, it may be simpler to live an unintentional life then we might realize.
This poses the question, what does it mean to live an intentional life?
To live an intentional life means you are experiencing a life that you are consciously designing. This idea places you firmly in charge of experiences, results, and the outcomes of every opportunity you are faced with.
If you are willing to consider this possibility, the ‘what-if might be true’, the next step will become the reality of living with the acceptance that everything that is going on in your life right now, you have helped to create. This is great if you love what’s going on, but not as much if you are unhappy in your current situation.
Now, I’m not suggesting that you have been actively creating things you don’t like, nor am I hinting at the idea that random things don’t happen. As a complete designer of your life, in a literal sense, you would probably have made a few different choices; random things enter into the equation (as we are not living as hermits) instead, we are constantly interacting with other people’s realities. You may not believe you are in charge when unpredictable things happens, but the truth is that while you can’t necessarily stop these things, you are utterly in charge of how you respond and react to everything that happens. The problem is, however, you have a lot of data influencing your responses and reactions that are running on autopilot. This means it’s wired into your brain in an unconscious way.
You may not believe you are in charge when unpredictable stuff happens, but the truth is that while you can’t stop necessarily these things, you are utterly in charge of how you respond and react to everything that happens
The autopilot I refer to here is driven by what I call your Primary Survival Impulse, which is triggered whenever it believes your safety may be in jeopardy. The origin of this impulse stems from past circumstances that were well beyond your control or even your memory, because it happened so long ago.
From the moment we enter this life, we are influenced by everything around us, and no education exists when we are young that remotely touches on what I speak of here. The lucky ones are the individuals that wake up one day, usually many years later, and start seeking answers because they’ve figured out that something isn’t adding up! They are fortunate they have woken up inside their life. Unfortunately, the awakening typically comes from the truth that they’ve had so much pain happen inside of their life it has served to wake them up.
While this barely exposes the tip of the iceberg of what it means to be live an intentional life, the very first step you can take right now is to connect to how you are feeling on the deepest level you dare! Understanding how you feel will begin to tap into what is going on for you on an unconscious level. This seemingly simple exercise will move you infinitely closer to designing your life.
You are capable of more than you know.